Moving Out Pt.1


    So a few months ago my friend asked me if I can move out with her in about a year (maybe a couple months longer). At first, I was not sure. My requirements to move out was to have enough money and a roommate. But the more I thought about it I realized that in a year I will have a job and I should have enough money saved up. Plus my birthday and Christmas are right next to each other so I could ask for appliances and such as gifts. So I agreed because I thought it would be a fun experience to get out into the real world, especially with a friend by my side. We both also have a lot of friends moving to different states and cities or going to a faraway college. We both wanna stay in the city we were raised in and we both plan to do online college. So these were more reasons to move in with her.
    I got a little scared. I thought what if I can't afford it? How will I pay for all the things we need? So I called my therapist. She calmed me down and told me she was excited for me. She said it was totally do-able as long as I get a job soon and start saving. This kept me calm for a while and I kept the moving out stuff in the back of my brain.
    Now I have been thinking about it again. I found this cute townhouse that I fell in love with and it was pretty cheap to rent. I showed my little brother and he started telling me things I did not expect him to say. He said things such as "How will you afford all of the bills? How are you going to work and do part-time college? How will you earn enough money for this?" This has gotten me scared again. I am going to set up an appointment with my therapist and talk to her about this.
    I like to think I am being smart about this, but people's reactions have been freaking me out a bit. I'm not being stupid about it and renting an expensive place and buying brand new furniture. I am looking for a cheap place and looking at Goodwill and Facebook Marketplace for furniture. People work and do college all of the time. What makes it seem to others that I won't be able to do it? 
    My advice for all of you out there making any kind of big decision for yourself is to make a pros and cons list. This helps me all of the time. It's what helped me decide that I should move out. Also if you are moving out, don't go all out. Be smart about the purchases you make and create a budget, don't ever go over your budget. It's not a bad thing to get used items such as a couch or a dining room table. It's a smart thing. You can always save for what you really want. 
    I probably will touch on this topic again in the future. Probably when I am closer to a moving out date.

What are your thoughts on this? What are your after graduate plans?

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  1. grace_writesJune 24, 2020 at 5:21 PM

    Sooner or later you will have to go out in the world as your own individual. It just depends on if you want to go out sooner or later. If you choose sooner, there WILL be some pros and cons, but you'll get some experience and adventure you might not get if you choose later. And if you choose later, you'll get some rewards and probably will be wiser and know yourself better. Whatever you choose, remember God's got your back and you will never be alone in your struggles or happiness.

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    1. Waves of LifeJune 24, 2020 at 9:11 PM

      Thank you so much! God will always have my back you are right on that one! We'll see what happens! Its still a ways out so I have time.

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